Learn how to “break the spell” of control with this bestseller hailed by Oprah Winfrey. Controlling People reveals the thought processes of those who try to control others and provides a “spell-breaking” mind-set for those who suffer this insidious manipulation.
Does this sound like someone you know?
*Always needs to be right
*Tells you who you are and what you think
*Implies that you’re wrong or inadequate when you don’t agree
*Is threatened by people who are “different”
*Feels attacked when questioned
*Doesn’t seem to really hear or see you
If any of the above traits sounds familiar, help is on the way! In Controlling People, bestselling author Patricia Evans, tackles the “controlling personality,” and reveals how and why these people try to run other people’s lives. She also explains the compulsion that makes them continue this behavior—even as they alienate others and often lose those they love.
Controlling People helps you unravel the senseless behavior that plagues both the controller and the victim. Can the pattern or spell be broken? YES, says the author.
By understanding the compelling force involved, you can be a catalyst for change and actually become a spell-breaker. Once the spell is broken and the controller sees others as they really are, a genuine connection can be forged and healing can occur.
Should you ever find yourself in the thrall of someone close to you, Controlling People is here to give you the wisdom, power, and comfort you need to be a stronger, happier, and more independent person.
Psychological abuse, often called emotional abuse, is a form of abuse characterized by a person subjecting or exposing another person to a behavior that may result in psychological trauma, including anxiety, chronic depression, or post-traumatic stress disorder. The term gaslighting, of course, comes from a mid-century movie in which a husband tried to kill his wife by altering her reality and making her think she was crazy.
Within every community, toxic people can be found hiding in families, couples, companies, and places of worship. The cryptic nature of psychological abuse involves repetitious mind games played by one individual or a group of people. Psychological abuse leaves no bruises. There are no broken bones. There are no holes in the walls. The bruises, brokenness, and holes are held tightly within the target of the abuse. Healing from Hidden Abuse walks the reader through each of the six recovery stages researched and developed by the author. The stages are Despair, Education, Awakening, Boundaries, Restoration, and Maintenance. A guided Personal Reflections journal is included in the back of the book to help the reader go deeper in their application of the six stages of recovery. The journal can be used individually or in a small group setting.
Ghosting is a new term and began to describe the practice of ending a personal relationship with someone by suddenly and without explanation withdrawing all communication. Both are hurtful and destructive behaviors that leave people feeling bad or crazy and not really understanding why. So, have you ever experienced being ghosted or gaslighted? It is maddening. Let’s break down how it works. Ghosting is a term that means someone has cut you off and cut you out. It includes de-friending on social media, not returning phone calls, and basically acting as if the ghoster never knew you. Ghosting in dating leaves the ghosted one wondering what happened. In friendship, the same. Why would someone just disappear you with no explanation? Why not be honest and say the relationship isn’t working out. If it’s an adult child who ghosts a parent, being disappeared as if the parent never existed is painful beyond belief. There’s absolutely nothing you can do about it, except accept it and move on. On the positive side, ghosting sets you free from someone who doesn’t care about you. That’s a good thing.
Ghosting makes you disappear. Gaslighting drives you crazy. There are no rules on how to behave these days.
Gaslighting is the subjective experience of having one’s reality repeatedly questioned by another. the term derives from the title of the 1944 American film Gaslight, which was based on the 1938 British theatre play Gas Light by Patrick Hamilton, though the term did not gain popular currency in English until the mid-2010s. A 2022 Washington Post report described it as a “trendy buzzword” that is “often used incorrectly by people referring to simple disagreements … that don’t meet gaslighting’s historical definition”, leading to expert concerns about the term becoming diluted.
Gaslighting is a term used in self-help and amateur psychology to describe a dynamic that can occur in personal relationships (romantic or parental) and in workplace relationships. Gaslighting involves two parties; the “gaslighter”, who persistently puts forth a false narrative, and the “gaslighted”, who struggles to maintain their individual autonomy. Gaslighting is typically effective only when there is an unequal power dynamic or when the gaslighted has shown respect to the gaslighter.
Gaslighting is different from genuine relationship disagreement, which is both common and important in relationships. Gaslighting is distinct in that:
- one partner is consistently listening and considering the other partner’s perspective;
- one partner is consistently negating the other’s perception, insisting that they are wrong, or telling them that their emotional reaction is irrational or dysfunctional.
Gaslighting typically occurs over a long duration and not on a one-off basis Over time, the listening partner may exhibit symptoms often associated with anxiety disorders, depression, or low self-esteem. Gaslighting is distinct from genuine relationship conflict in that one party manipulates the perceptions of the other.
Ghosted and Breadcrumbed: Stop Falling for Unavailable Men and Get Smart about Healthy Relationships
Psychotherapist Dr. Marni Feuerman offers profound and insightful advice for women who find themselves in painful and unsatisfying relationships or dating experiences again and again. She offers explanations and solutions for why we attract and accept poor treatment, experience a lack of emotional connection from romantic partners, and often reject the good ones.
Based on the science of love, neurobiology, and attachment theory, as well as Dr. Feuerman’s clinical experience, Ghosted and Breadcrumbed provides expert guidance to help you recognize why you get stuck and how to change these patterns for good. Her practical advice, illustrated by real-life examples, will teach you how to spot and exit these situations and create healthy relationships that provide the love, support, and emotional connection you deserve.
Break free from the lies and manipulation that are keeping you captive
You’re positive you saw a flirty text from another woman on your husband’s phone. Yet, when you confront him, he tells you you’re imagining things and being paranoid.
A co-worker sarcastically mentions that you’re not contributing enough to the big project. When you get offended, they say they were just joking and that you’re too sensitive.
Your mother constantly criticizes your weight. When you bring up her comments around other people, she denies ever saying them and says you are making up stories.
Have you repeatedly found yourself in these types of situations where you end up doubting yourself?
They might have occurred with different people, in different circumstances, but the way they make you feel is the same.
Your feelings are trivialized, your thoughts are manipulated, and your reality is denied.
When this is done to you repeatedly, you begin to feel confused or even crazy. You are left questioning your own reality and sanity.
These are classic signs that you’re being gaslighted, and it’s something to take very seriously.
Gaslighting is a covert form of abuse that affects your confidence and trust in yourself, which the abuser then takes advantage of to keep you under their control.
Whether it’s a spouse, parent, or co-worker, it’s hard to break loose from the grip of a gaslighting manipulator.
You will need to know how gaslighters operate, how their behavior is affecting you, and how you can reclaim your truth.
In Gaslighting & Narcissistic Abuse Recovery, you will discover:
- The sneaky tactics gaslighters employ that catch you off-guard and make you more vulnerable to their exploitation
- How to hold on to your grip on reality, despite the gaslighter’s efforts to undermine it
- Powerful ways to respond to gaslighters, block their attacks, and take back control of the conversation
- Why self-care is a critical component in coping with abuse, especially if you need to regularly interact with a gaslighter
- The shift in mindset to help you finally gain the courage to escape an abusive relationship
- What you need to do after leaving a gaslighting relationship to make sure you don’t fall into the same cycle again
- Why you shouldn’t expect any closure from your abuser, and why you can still move on without it
- How to rebuild your sense of self after years of being torn down by others and much more.
Acknowledging that you’re being abused is the first step towards recovery. After years of gaslighting, you may be so used to it that you no longer recognize this is not a normal way to live.You might believe that there’s no way out, or you can’t imagine life without the one who’s manipulating you.But if you truly want to be able to live life on your own terms, cutting yourself off from the source of your pain is essential.It won’t happen overnight, and it will take committed effort, but you can feel like yourself again – the person you used to be… the person you’re meant to be.If you want to take back control of your life and regain your sanity and self-worth, then click the “buy” button right now.