Safe People will help you discover why good people can get tangled in bad relationships, how to avoid repeating your own mistakes, and how to pick safe, healthy people for the friends you make and the company you keep.
Too many of us have invested in relationships that have gone wrong. Maybe you’ve been judged, manipulated, or controlled. Or maybe you’ve trusted the wrong people in the past. It’s easy to make the same mistakes of judgment over and over–or, worse, to give up on trying to have great, authentic relationships again. But it doesn’t have to be that way.
In Safe People, Drs. Henry Cloud and John Townsend teach you that being with an unsafe person can be damaging to your confidence, your trust in others, and even your health. You’ll learn that you have the power to surround yourself with accepting, honest, and safe people who draw you closer to being the person God intended you to be.
Drs. Cloud and Townsend, authors of the New York Times bestseller Boundaries, are here to share the lessons they’ve learned in their years of practicing psychology and studying the patterns and practices that support clear, biblical boundaries. In Safe People, they offer guidance for making safe choices in all of your day-to-day relationships, from family and friends to colleagues and partners.
Safe People will give you the tools you need to recognize what makes people relationally safe, form positive relationships, and even become a safe person along the way. Drs. Cloud and Townsend share expert insights that will help you ask important questions:
- How can I learn to pick better friends?
- Why do I choose people who let me down?
- How did I end up with this critical boss?
- How do I attract irresponsible people?
- Why did I invest money with that unscrupulous person?
- What is it about me that draws the wrong types of people to me?
- Why am I drawn to the wrong types of people?
It’s time to revitalize your connections and finally start enjoying the healthy, balanced relationships that you deserve.
In this revised and updated version of Facing Love Addiction, bestselling author of Facing Codependence and internationally recognized dependence and addiction authority Pia Mellody unravels the intricate dynamics of unhealthy love relationships and shows us how to let go of toxic love. Through twelve-step work, exercises, and journal-keeping, Facing Love Addiction compassionately and realistically outlines the recovery process for Love Addicts, and Mellody’s fresh perspective and clear methods work to comfort and motivate all those looking to establish and maintain healthy, happy relationships.
In this revised and updated version of Facing Love Addiction, bestselling author of Facing Codependence and internationally recognized dependence and addiction authority Pia Mellody unravels the intricate dynamics of unhealthy love relationships and shows us how to let go of toxic love. Through twelve-step work, exercises, and journal-keeping, Facing Love Addiction compassionately and realistically outlines the recovery process for Love Addicts, and Mellody’s fresh perspective and clear methods work to comfort and motivate all those looking to establish and maintain healthy, happy relationships.
A workbook to help readers explore their hiding patterns and discover the freedom of connected relationships. When we experience emotional injury, fear, shame, or pride, our first impulse is to hide the hurting parts of ourselves from God, others, and even ourselves. The problem is that when we hide our injuries and frailties, we run from the very things we need to heal and mature. What served as protection for a child becomes a prison to an adult.This workbook helps readers explore the hiding patterns they have developed and guides them toward the healing grace and truth that God has built into safe, connected relationships with himself and others.
Are you able to make friends and deepen those friendships when you desire? Are you able to express your thoughts, feelings and needs, even when they differ from those around you? Are you able to talk about things that bother you in ways that show love and respect to those with whom you are frustrated? If your answer to any of the questions above is “no,” Speaking the Truth in Love will provide practical guidelines to help you achieve those objectives. It attempts to show that setting healthy boundaries is compatible with our biblical calling to love and serve one another. Henry Virkler is a Christian psychologist who has been teaching Christian counseling for the past thirty years. Other books include Broken Promises: Understanding, Healing and Preventing Affairs, Hermeneutics: Principles and Processes of Biblical Interpretation, Choosing a New Pastor: The Complete Handbook, and A Christian’s Guide to Critical Thinking. Dr. Virkler and his wife have two sons and reside in Palm Beach Gardens, Florida. He teaches in the counseling program at Palm Beach Atlantic University.
“A sensible book, full of insight and hope,”* that offers support and guidance in freeing emotionally abused women from the cycle of abuse and establishing new healthy patterns of relating to others.
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• Does your husband or lover constantly criticize you and put his needs before yours?
• Do you sometimes wonder if your best friend is truly a friend?
• Does your boss try to control your every move?
• Does your fear of being left alone keep you in chronically hurtful relationships?
If any of these questions sound familiar, you could very well be suffering from emotional abuse—the most widespread but also the most hidden abuse that women experience. This type of abuse is just as damaging as physical or sexual abuse.
But there is help in this invaluable compassionate sourcebook. As a marriage, family, and child therapist who has grappled with these issues herself, Beverly Engel guides you through a step-by-step recover process, helping you shed the habits begun in childhood and take the first few steps toward healthy change.
Using numerous examples drawn from case history and her own therapeutic expertise, Engel will show you how to
• Recognize and understand the abusers in your life
• Identify the patterns that have kept you emotionally trapped
• Complete your unfinished business
• Decide whether to walk away from an abusive relationship or take a stand and stay
• Heal the damage of abuse by building self-esteem
• Break the cycle of abuse and open yourself to the promise of healthy relationships